That time a couple few people tried to use grief to test my no contact boundaries.
In 2024/25 I set boundaries designed to protect me. Durning this time two people that I’d established no contact boundaries with, tried to reachout after a loved one in their life had transitioned. While grief can make people forget the business they’ve decided to stand on, it doesn’t erase history.
When I decide to walked away from you, I released myself from the responsibility of providing you anything and that includes comfort during your time of mourning.
Before grief hit your doorstep, I was there. I showed up and I gave support that was mishandled, misunderstood, or mistaken for something that would always be there.
I feel no need to reappear in the life of those I’ve walked away from based on the fact that they are grieving. Their grief does not obligate me to reopen a door I’ve already closed.
This silence isn’t bitterness. It’s me honoring the fact that my boundaries are there to protect me and this protection will not be lifted, not even if someone dies.
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